We are asking Midget Singles members one question: when you are dating as a little person, what matters most to you in a partner, or in the way that person approaches the relationship? The poll is in preparation. No votes have been collected yet, and nothing will appear on this page until members have answered it.
What we are asking
One question, five options, one vote each. The options below came from what people raise on the site and in the messages they send us. They are the starting point for the poll, not findings from it.
- That they respect my autonomy and do not treat me as a dependent.
- That they are genuinely curious about me as a person, not just my height.
- That they use respectful language without me having to ask.
- That they are comfortable and relaxed around me in public.
- Shared values and compatibility, the same as in any other relationship.
If the answer you would give is not on that list, the poll will have a box for it, and we will read what goes in it.
Why this particular question
Dating advice written for people of short stature tends to be written by people who are not. It arrives confident about what little people want and thin on evidence for any of it. We would rather ask.
We have deliberately not ranked them, and we are not going to guess at the order on anyone else's behalf. That is the whole point of asking.
What you will get when there are answers
A percentage on its own is close to useless, so you will not be given one on its own. Every figure published here will arrive with the number of people it came from, the dates the poll was open, and the raw count behind it. Anyone who votes will have chosen to vote, which skews the result, and that will be said next to the figures rather than in small print underneath them.
Nothing will be weighted or rounded to look tidier than it is. If an option draws too few votes to carry any weight, it stays a small number rather than being promoted into a headline.
Why we are bothering to explain this
People of short stature spend a fair amount of time having their own account of their lives corrected by people who have not lived one. This site did a version of that when it published invented figures about them on a chart, and we would rather not do it twice.
When our own members have voted, you will be able to trace every figure back to the question that was asked and the number of people who answered it. Until then, this page says what it intends to ask, and nothing beyond that.
Status: poll in preparation. No votes collected yet. When it has run, this page will carry the number of members who voted, the dates the poll was open, and the raw count behind every figure.
Correction. An earlier version of this page showed a vote total, a set of percentage breakdowns, per-option vote counts and a demographic split. Those were sample content created when the site was built rather than member responses. They have been removed, and the poll described above is the replacement.